On Daycare and Evil

I am befuddled. Hurt. Feeling betrayed... but most of all... ANGRY.

We take pride in always trying to find the best possible care options for our boys. We want them to be in a loving, nurturing environment. We want them to feel safe and have confidence and feel loved at all times.

This time, the system failed us. Our normal checks turned up nothing. So we went with what seemed like a decent daycare provider.... then the two week trial period (when we could cancel and walk at any time) ended.

The things our boy has told us since the end of their stay with this horrible person... they make me really want to lash out at this woman. Seriously. I'm not a violent person... and I see flames in my head when I think about it.

Our son has told me that her kids were telling him to do things. He'd say no because he knew they would get him in trouble... and they would egg him on and say "go ahead, she will think it's funny." So, at the coaching of children twice his age, he would do some of the things that puzzled us and then he'd get in trouble.

That's one thing. It's another thing all together when your child claims the caretaker smacks them. I don't care who you THINK you are. I don't care how much I'm paying you. You NEVER have the right to raise a hand to my child. Don't even THINK about it.

But she did. He said she smacked his forehead and his chest at least once, on different occasions.

Now, the possibility exists that it was one of her older children. But I don't care. That creates an unsafe environment. The very thing you said you kicked my boy out for. The same thing that I told you time and again we never saw in him at home.

Really?

I thought it funny when my child asked me not to rub his legs with the towel to dry him off.
I thought it odd when he would act completely differently at home than you were claiming he was acting in your care.
I found it really upsetting when my beautiful son cried uncontrollably and told me he was a quitter and a loser and he didn't know how to stop.

What. the. hell. were. you. doing. to. and. telling. him???

Now it seems to make sense. If you really hit him, I don't doubt he told you his mom would be upset and come to get you. He was fighting for his safety... and you were claiming he was the problem. If you were calling him names, I don't doubt that he laughed at you. He knows that crap isn't true... because we always build up his confidence and let him know when he's being the awesome kid he has grown to be.

You should be ashamed of yourself. Who, in their right mind, attacks a child? What adult can rest easily at night knowing they have tried to damage the psyche of a child? Who, in good conscience, tries to break the will of a happy little boy?

You, ma'am, are a bully. You don't deserve to be a child care provider. And you certainly don't deserve to have met either of my sons. I hope you enjoyed the ride... because I assure you it's not going to be pleasant once we are through.