Week #3

So, the third week at the new daycare has passed without event.

In 3 weeks, our sweet LM has gotten one time out. Seriously... only one! He went from being timed out for most of the day every. single. day to once in three weeks. Now, he occasionally needs to be redirected... but he's only 3, remember? What 3 year old is absolutely perfect 100% of the time?

Anyway, since his new daycare we have seen so many changes....

He is our loveable, quirky, little clown again.
He listens and usually heeds our directions.
He is playful.
He plays nicely with his little brother most of the time. (They are siblings, and they sometimes have disagreements, but who doesn't?)
He sleeps well.
Teeth grinding during sleep has come to an almost complete stop.
He is no longer angry.
He is excited to go on family vacation again.

I can only hypothesize about what went on for my sweet LM during his days in purgatory... but the more I think about it, the more I want to see her and ask what was really up.

Shame on a person who claims they are giving "nurturing and loving care" to a child when they are actually persecuting the child from the minute they walk through the door. Shame on a person that is supposed to be an adult that a child looks up to for safety and protection to make them feel insecure and as though they can't please them, no matter how hard they try.

Shame on you if you can't be an adult and give a child the benefit of the doubt.

They have never been children before. They are still learning their place in the world.

Apparently, some adults never advanced beyond this stage in their life.

We have since spoken with his original dcp regarding issues... and she said that she would often say he was timed out a lot, when in reality it was maybe 3-4 times. She said he never did things that were completely appalling... just the normal run-of-the mill stuff for a kid... but that he was more frustrating because they had to learn how to deal with him in a different way. 

She said they would often just sit him down with a worksheet to do so that he would be distracted away from his craziness.